But I’d say that a person who doesn’t carry shame doesn’t wield shame as a weapon. A person who doesn’t carry bitterness and jealousy doesn’t need to criticize you, or cut you down. A person who feels safe, settled, and good enough on the inside won’t turn you into competition.  Conversely, a person who has peace, good will, and love toward self on the inside carries peace, good will, and love toward others on the outside.